The spontaneity that can make sex so amazing (mmm, what was that?) can also make it absolutely cringey (OMG, what the eff was that!?). Here’s the thing, though: Embarrassing bed seshes happen to the best of us. And while a rogue queef may kill the mood, there’s an upside in the long run. “The less-than-romantic times give you both a chance to show your vulnerability, to bond, to feel closer,” explains Emily Morse, a sexologist and host of the podcast Sex with Emily. And let’s not forget: to laugh your ass off about it later! We rounded up some “help!” scenarios straight from real women to get some insta-fixes from experts.
“Sometimes I cry during sex, especially after I’ve had an orgasm. It’s just a rush of emotions, but it definitely detracts from the experience. The last time it happened, I know it weirded out the guy I’ve been seeing.” —Kate, 33, dating
DO THIS: Respect—and go with—your flow. After all, these tears are not something you can necessarily control, says Heather Meggers-Wright, Ph.D., a sex therapist and associate professor of psychology at Birmingham-Southern College. “People sometimes cry during good sex because of the release of oxytocin, which can magnify emotions.” Oxytocin is also believed to promote trust and empathy, which can make you feel like you’re in a safe space to release any feelings you’ve been holding on to—like nerves from being yelled at by your boss earlier, or sadness from fighting with a friend. Since these scenarios have nothing to do with your bedmate, let him know that the waterworks are actually a sign that the sex was, um, incredible, then suggest lightening the mood by cuing up an episode of Family Guy.
For more cringe-worthy sex scenarios (and how to solve them fast!), pick up the March issue of Women’s Health, on newsstands now!